Of the many problems that are common among families today, is the trauma cycle. The earlier treated, the better, for this is an issue that is only going to get worse with age. This can continue till what one can get is a troubled and difficult parent. This parent gives a difficult childhood to his/her children. The poor child who have no idea how to handle it all in their innocence.
As the very name suggests, this is a condition, where the cycle of trauma gets passed down from one generation to the next. It gets passed down from one child to the next and one little parent to the next. Finally, what you have is a line of generations with a cycle of trauma. This can only continue to go round and round without stopping.
Well, now how do we put this dreadful cycle to a stop? That said, here are a couple of steps to breaking the cycle of generational trauma.
Communication: Ending the Cycle Of Trauma
Communication is one of the most important steps to breaking the cycle of generational trauma.
Often what leads to the cycle of trauma is a lack of communication, where with bottled up feelings. This can get passed down from generation to generation. All this can lead to what we often refer to as the trauma cycle. This can be characterised by a history of similar struggles running in the family.
Well, someone needs to start breaking the cycle of generational trauma. Now that you are reading this article, it is most likely that this blessed soul is you.
Knowing My Role In the Trauma Cycle
So, what do we do? Identify your own weaknesses first. This is one of the first steps to putting an end to this cycle of trauma.
Sit down with a pen and paper if you have to. Start by making a list of all the things that you seem to be suffering with. Start right from the postpartum depression you think you are going through to the helicopter parenting you are guilty of practicing.
This is a term often we use to denote a style of parenting where a parent closely monitors the actions and events that happen with a child. He goes hovering around them like a helicopter. This is often loud and irritating, with their presence being a menace and a nuisance for the poor harassed child to put up with.
Am I practicing this style of parenting? Am I a parent suffering from generational trauma which has made me a victim?
Breaking the Cycle Of Generational Trauma
Then it is time for action, and your time starts now. Get help if you have to. Know that reaching out as a parent is not a weakness but indeed a sign of great strength, and willingness to be better parents.
And your efforts will bear fruit some day. In the end, don’t forget to share the same with your children. Narrate all your struggles with them, so that they can learn from you and not commit the same mistakes some day.
Children are understanding, you know? You just need to trust the powers God has entrusted to them, count on them, and show them how much you rely on them.
You will wonder at how they soon grow responsible, maturing by the day, and turning into healthy and stable adults.
For isn’t that what you want in the end?