New Mommy? Here Are Some Emotional Regulation Skills

Let’s look at some of the ways you can handle emotional regulation skills as a new mommy to deal with all those difficult moments better!

As a parent, learning emotional regulation skills is of utmost importance.  Being a parent is like being a part of this big roller coaster ride of ups and downs with toddler tantrums, mischiefs, and surprises. It can often throw us off balance.

This can be so much that at times it just seems hard not to lose our cool and scream.

And so it is very important to prepare for this roller coaster ride. And the right self-regulation skills teach us how to react each time.

So, if you too have begun to agree on the fact that parenting is more than just a joy ride, then here are some tips for you.  You can practice this self-regulation that will soon turn this one dreadful roller coaster into one true big joy ride:

Some tips for emotional regulation skills.

Very important! Do you spend your days running around, feeding, cleaning, and cooking? You need to take a timeout. Make it a part of your schedule today.

Use this time to do something you like.

You’ll be surprised by how it will help you in practicing self-regulation.

Also, make sure that you use this time to get a lot of fresh air, self-talk, or maybe just some quiet time to reflect. In the end, you’ll just find yourself laughing at a lot of things that had you worrying.

Apart from this, this is one of the best times to begin a few family traditions. This can do a world of good to your family and you.

Relax

It’s not a sin to have your child strew toys all over the living room, or if the kitchen is an earthquake. Or if he accidentally found a tin or powder or shoe polish or an egg and made a mess all over the floor.

While it is important to correct the terrible twos, sometimes all you need to do is laugh and let go.

Also, remember that when it comes to fighting with a kid, you don’t have to always be right. So, does he want that extra Hershey’s Kiss and has had his meal? Maybe you can just let him go for it.

Talk

No, not to a judgmental mother-in-law (if she’s being judgemental). Talk to someone who understands and cares and most of all are patient and willing to listen to your rants. Talk to someone who listens without interrupting you with bits of free advice in between.

Find another mother down the lane, or someone in the same boat in your friends’ circle, or maybe even your therapist. She could be your best friend when you’re a parent.

Discipline

Being too kind to yourself is not always good, that is, if you have not been spending time with adequate self-care.

Being a mommy is not just about changing nappies and cleaning after your kid.

So, tell me, when was the last time you exercised?

Put aside those silly addictions on social media and get the treadmill out. We are going to do some exercise, put away those chips and start eating healthy.

Finally…

Don’t worry! You’re good the way you are. Beating up yourself after each failed attempt will not do any good in raising your self-esteem.

Sometimes what you need to do is give yourself a tap on the back for each big and small achievement. Just remind yourself of all your efforts being rewarded someday and that all will be fine.

 

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